When I studied to acquire my Master's status I discovered the M/S relationship existed probably for all the history of humans. Religion and Western Culture distort this greatly. Using codes and euphemisms even denial masks it presents the fact many people thrive within this often unrecognized subculture. For example, my wife had all the earmarks of a pleasure slave and was generally devoted and submissive to me. In times of marriage friction, I often heard the words from a counselor, "She just wants you to love her" "Love her" I thought I was and did now I know without a doubt I need to be a master, not some preconceived idea we are to live as equals.
With so many toys and replicas of vaginas and penises, if you were blindfolded or you kept your eyes closed (if you could), could you be sure you were having sex with a natural person? What if your partner got some very realistic and precise replicas? Mmmmm. What if the room became as dark as possible, and an AI robot partner made love to you? Would you be insulted or thrilled?
Do you think this scientific progress has value for long-term space missions?
What if you woke up covered with hickeys and smeared with red lipstick?
I suppose it could be good for some as for me I won't be happy unless I made love to a real live woman. Romantic setting, playful adventures, fond memories. And I prefer a long-term monogamous relationship as long as I am alive. After all, I am a fully self-aware sentient being.
Some of you may know about the subject of this post, but some may not: Items are not what they say they are.
Even though "nut" is in its name, a peanut is actually a legume. Like soybeans, lentils, and other legumes, peanuts are edible seeds that grow in pods.
Tomatoes are botanically defined as fruits because they form from a flower and contain seeds.
A strawberry is actually a multiple fruit which consists of many tiny individual fruits embedded in a fleshy receptacle.
A banana is an elongated, edible fruit – botanically a berry
Corn, Zea mays, belongs to the Poaceae family, and while eaten sometimes as a vegetable and sometimes as a grain, it is actually classified by botanists as a fruit, as are tomatoes, green peppers, cucumbers, zucchini and other squashes.
The avocado, alligator pear or avocado pear is a medium-sized, evergreen tree in the laurel family: Prized for its large and unusually oily fruit.
Eggplant, aubergine, brinjal, or baigan is a plant species in the nightshade family Solanaceae. Solanum melongena is grown worldwide for its edible fruit. Most commonly purple. *
Many animals may not be in the family they seem to be (probably another blog).
*"Nightshade is a family of plants that includes tomatoes, eggplant, potatoes, and peppers. Tobacco is also in the nightshade family. Nightshades are unique because they contain small amounts of alkaloids.
Alkaloids are chemicals that are mainly found in plants. For something to be considered an alkaloid, it must contain nitrogen and affect the human body, usually from a medicinal perspective. Morphine and quinine are two examples of plant-based medicines that contain alkaloids." https://www.webmd.com/diet/what-to-know-about-nightshade-vegetables
All kinky variations I and a partner can agree to enjoy, and what we may want to try will start with a simple premise: Are we comfortable making love to each other, and is it satisfying? If so, then we may embark on a sensual, sexual adventure and enjoy each other. You may mistakenly believe I have rescued you, but you have rescued me. From what, you may ask? From a sensationless, senseless, sexless existence. No wonderful feeling of bliss. No falling off to sleep completely content and fulfilled. No early morning joyful awakening.
Now, we can walk on a beach or a mountain trail and feel like this world was made for us—for us to enjoy. Every day, ordinary things become extraordinary when shared. We can share dreams for a future together.
We then find we are not only comfortable without a sexual relationship but our love relationship as well.
Let us stroll amid the blossoms in the gentle spring rain, then snuggle by a warm fire to fend off the chill. And say, I need you, I want you, I love you.
Within our sphere of reality, we are free to see what we want. I could see dark rainclouds as a gloomy threat or as a blessing for my gardens: it is all in my ability to choose. I have had a saying (it could be a mantra) that something is never as good or as wrong as it seems. A newer quote is, "It is what it is." However, how I feel about whatever and what I do about whatever is up to me.
I have often been teased that I make a science out of everything (LOL): Investigate, experiment, theorize, and apply what I learn to my life.
I see all the plants and animals around me ask questions and look them up. When I stand with a wide-open vista, I imagine the past and future, how it got the way it is, and what it may look like.
Entropy ensures that things will change, and I can not stop it. However, I can accept, adjust, and move on.
“Thoughts become perception, perception becomes reality. Alter your thoughts, alter your reality.”
When you become my friend, I want to help you in any way I can. I encourage you to do things that will improve your health. I try to support you when things go wrong. I find ways to get you the things you need—sometimes, the things you want. There is not too much I expect from you, but what you offer me should be freely given and not because I did something for you or gave you something. It need not be symbiotic. I may enjoy your companionship, and that is my reward.
, Pretenders
Dedicated to the unknown NYU student who saved me when my music manager wanted me to be able to get to a studio at 8 am even though I was working until way past 2 am. He drugged me. I was out of control for hours. She kept me safe, had me sit in a chair, and fed me bread and water until I was able to leave her apartment safely.
I have reflected on all the times I fell in love or thought I had. The bottom line in my thinking? I could never predict when or with whom I would fall in love. It remains a mystery, and I am glad it is that way. Why? I like the mysterious aspect because I am confident I will fall in love again when the right woman comes into my life. It won't be who I thought it would be. It won't be when it is convenient. It will be unexpected. Perhaps someone I knew or know now, but most likely not. That is all the better for me and whomever she will be. When genuine emotion overwhelms us, there will be no obstacle or reason to remain apart, no matter the distance or the circumstances. This will happen when we can enjoy each other, learn about each other, and enter into a secure relationship, overcoming all challenges.
There will be beautiful things to share: nature, flowers, music, and simple activities. We will be able to face life's challenges together with dedication to each other and confidence.
The performer who opened the Woodstock Festival was Richie Havens, a friend; Jimmi Hendrix performed in the same NYC club where I cut my entertainer's teeth. Others performed in Greenwich Village during my time there. It means I have great memories of an exciting time for music in America. When Woodstock was performed, however, I had enlisted in the U.S. Army (Jimmi Hendrix was a Veteran, too, BTW). The most famous performers I met or rubbed elbows with were Peter, Paul and Mary, Bob Dylan, Arlo Guthrie, Dave Van Ronk, Richard Pryor, Jose' Feliciano, The Lovin Spoonful, Neilson, and some I probably did not recognize or later became performers. After four years of active duty in the Army and a failed marriage, I returned to NYC only to find all my associates and contacts had moved on. Yet, I still have my fond memories. And, occasionally, I performed at a festival where I crossed paths with old acquaintances. I am content.
Most of us know about and rely upon the wonders of instant communication using modern technology, but do we understand its limitations?
Email and texts omit the subtleties of language and our reading of body language, leaving so much room for misunderstanding, assumptions, and ambiguous conclusions. Turn to video calls and messaging for some improvement, yet there is still room for errors in the communication. Nothing replaces one-on-one contact, and even that has flaws. How do we achieve better relationships that may have started with the above? Time.
Time allows for better mutual understanding and corrections of misunderstandings. The moment of resolution is as emotionally exhilarating as the moment we feel we are falling in love. Touch can not be achieved over the wire, internet, or phone, and touching is so essential in learning how to navigate a relationship.
Ways to avoid a close relationship: Don't Think Twice (original Version)
Don't make actual person-to-person contact
Avoid a dedicated pattern of meeting someone
Engage in a series of superficial, brief relationships
Reject a companion that appears to want to get closer to you
Never commit to anything between you and another person
Become hard to find online (ghosting) or ignore the person
Deliberately offend someone you wish to distance yourself from.
All this behavior will keep you from getting too involved with another person, and it is OK if that is your goal. If it is not, consider these if you are inadvertently applying them to potential relationships and decide which way you want to go.
I returned to thinking about "THE NOW EXSISTANCE."The now in the past becomes the now at this instant and quickly moves to become the in in the future.
I recognize past and future "NOWS" are as real as the current "NOW" is. This true only if you allow yourself to be within it.
Living in the past (more than reflecting upon it) or living in the future (more than speculating upon it) is unhealthy for me.
I want to be in the moment as I live it, especially Experiencing love in the moment. This requires a keen understanding and a sharp focus on myself (THE SELF).